I am me. You are you.

I so often hear people saying things like :-

I am impatient,

I am not lucky,

I am rubbish with technology,

I am ill.

It seems to me that when we put a label on ourselves…it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. We put our focus there….our energy there….and we become that thing we labelled ourself. Now….if we had said something like :-

I am happy,

I am clever,

I am grateful,

I am a great mother,

I am kind.

Then it would be great…but unfortunately we don’t tend to do that…we tell ourselves that it would be showing off…and that we are not worthy. This is such a tremendous pity because whatever we label ourselves, ‘good’ or ‘bad’, we are actually blocking us from being anything else…from being free of limitation. However ‘good’ the label is….we can always, always be better…kinder…wiser…more peaceful… Happier.

I hereby give you permission to care for yourself….to love yourself…to know that you are absolutely, completely, one hundred percent worthy.

We wouldn’t dream of speaking to anyone else the way we often do to ourselves, would we? Do you ever drop something or do something clumsily (like I do all the time!) and mumble “idiot” to yourself? Or worse? Yet being clumsy isn’t idiotic is it? We’re all human, we’re all fallible and we all drop things sometimes….especially when we’re in a hurry and particularly don’t want to lose time by having to pick things up!

Our malleable subconscious believes what it is repeatedly told, this is how hypnotherapy works so well…and to a lesser extent…NLP and advertising. We should therefore be very mindful of what we tell it…of what we say to ourselves. This can be tricky if we’re in a cycle of self-criticism so maybe it would be easier if you thought of yourself as a lovely close friend…someone you cared a lot about. How does that fit with you? It may feel a bit odd at first but your sweet..delicate…vulnerable soul will be soooo grateful to you and I know that being accepting and loving to yourself will become more natural the more you do it.

I know this already….lala…lala…lala

When we metaphorically or literally stick our fingers in our ears and refuse to listen to other ideas, beliefs or ways of doing things, because we’re sure we know it, we completely stop learning anything new; we become stagnant…stuck in our ways…narrow minded. I

know it can feel nice to think we have a handle on everything…have all our ducks in a row…and scary to think we’re not in control. By surrendering though…by admitting we don’t know all that much after all…we actually find out more and grow; become a better and better version of us…become the very best we can be.

You think your way’s better than mine?!?

Don’t be ridiculous! Don’t you think I’d know if I was wrong?! (Big Bang fans might recognise this Sheldon quote). Though I would never have admitted it, even to myself, I was always sure that the way I performed tasks, organised my life, came to my beliefs etc. was the best way…and therefore people who disagreed with me were wrong. Cringe. It is clear to me, now that I am happily secure in my ignorance of most things, that my apparent arrogance was actually a fear of being found out to be a fraud…of being discovered lacking in some way.

The weird thing is….that on almost every level I didn’t know that, so couldn’t seek help. You see how thinking you know stuff gets in the way?!

I AM. Fullstop

The more I think about it…the less I actually want to put anything after ‘I am’…the more relaxed I am about simply being me. Simply being. No one is ‘me’ better than me.

Today you are you, that is truer than true.

There is no one alive who is youer than you.

I love this Dr. Seuss quote, don’t you? We spend so much of our time comparing ourselves to others and trying to be like them that we forget how totally unique, awesome and perfect we are!

When we look at and up to other people and believe ourselves inferior…we’re not making a fair or accurate comparison; we are comparing our insides with their outsides. I talk about this in more detail in my first IGTV video.

We know ourselves inside out and see all our ‘flaws’ and ‘weaknesses’ but we only see the polished exterior that others decide to show to us. They might well be looking up to us and finding themselves inadequate. If we could each just celebrate our us-ness, we could all grow and improve, unhindered by our perceived limits. Rather than jealously guard our positive attributes, we could meet others with our own set of gifts and learn from theirs. We could share and pool our resources and all become great together… Imagine what we could achieve if we stopped hiding ourselves…hiding our abilities and expertise and laid them bare to be used for the common good?

Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.

You can read my thoughts on this Marianne Williamson’s quote in my blog post, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Next time I’ll be talking about how nothing at all is able to affect us….unless we let it. Until then, have a great time and let me know if you have any questions or would like me to coach you happy.

Catherine x

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