Does my ego look big in this?

It seems to me that everybody and his dog groomer’s uncle are bandying the word ‘ego’ about. Maybe you don’t encounter it as often as I do; I have several businesses and especially in my working with and teaching psychic mediums, a day rarely goes by without someone in that field writing or talking about it. I wasn’t entirely sure what it meant so I felt it would be a good idea for me to be better informed. I looked up its definition and these are just some of the ones I found before my head felt like exploding at the sheer number of definitions, let alone the complexity of some of them! In my ignorance, I hadn’t realised that there isn’t a definitive definition of anything, just different peoples’ perspective! I am well aware of this phenomena but naively didn’t realise it extended to dictionary definitions; I apologise for my ignorance. You may like to read The whole truth and nothing but the truth for more on individual perspective and how it affects our lives.



a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance

your conscious mind, the part of your identity that you consider your ‘self’

the view that a person has of himself

the ā€œIā€ or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought

the self; the individual as self-aware

the self especially as contrasted with another self or the world


the conscious mind, based on perception and environment from birth onwards: responsible for modifying the antisocial instincts of the id and itself modified by the conscious (superego)

the part of a person’s mind that tries to match the hidden desires (wishes) of the id (part of the unconscious mind) with the demands of the real world


a conscious thinking subject

There is hardly anything here to do with how full of themself someone is, even though the experience I have is that people use the word ‘ego’ to mean showing off and big-headed; as an insult. It seems to me that the ego is actually an essential part of us…it is how we experience that we have an individual identity. We have a physical form that separates us from others and we have our own set of experiences, thoughts, loves and ambitions that are unique to us.

The ego is impatient because its time is limited…. the spirit is patient because it knows it is eternal.

We can’t live a human life without understanding and believing we are separate from what is outside us…from the rest of mankind…from God.

Yet we can’t live a spiritual life without understanding and believing we are not separate from what is outside us…from the rest or mankind…from God.

The paradox is that to live a balanced and happy life, we need to believe both of these suppositions.

Having an ego means we know who we are and what we want from life and as long as we keep love and kindness in our hearts and are prepared to be flexible, I can’t see that’s not a good thing. Can we ensure we let compassion guide us, though? Can you?

The ego is our social face, the image we put on for the outside world. This, I am concerned about. We don’t like to show people our inside with all its mistakes and flaws…we don’t think it’s good enough….we think, people see the real us, we’ll be judged and found wanting. We fear being disapproved of; of making a fool of ourselves. That’s really sad, isn’t it? You might like to take a look at Your relationship with you; love yourself.

I am who I am

I remember having several personas, depending on the company and situation; I thought that it was necessary, that there was no other way to be. I had one for work, one at parties, one with my accountant…etc. I have recently noticed that the deeper my understanding of thought and its role, the less I feel I have to wear a mask…it just doesn’t feel necessary or appropriate any more. I’m happy and fulfilled in my own skin; I no longer have to pretend to be anything I’m not. It’s lovely when people like me, but if they don’t, I’m not going to change and become untrue to myself. I can’t see any use at all of a fake me being liked.

I’d love it if you could feel as truly and comfortably relaxed and accepting of yourself as I am…it feels like an enormous and exhausting weight has been lifted from me; it feels wonderful.

So what I have understood is that Ego is necessary, but when it becomes more important than our authenticity…our realness…we have a problem.

I guess I’m saying that, like many things, ego is great in moderation!

I’m not at all sure I’ve got this right and I’d really love to know what you think about ego. Please leave a comment….bear in mind that my head is exploding already!

Next time I’ll be talking about our endless possibilities… Until then, have a fabulous week and please let me know if you have any questions or comments, or would like me to help you on a one-one basis.

Catherine x

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