It all started with a kiss

Over the years, I’ve tried a lot of things to stop me feeling depressed or anxious, and most of them worked pretty well until the going got tough, at which point I forgot the steps I had to take or the strategies I had to implement and I felt as bad as ever I had.

The more deeply I understand the role of thought, the absolute lack of control we have over the people and events in our lives and the enormous control we have over our own emotions, the more and more simple my life becomes. It was so very time-consuming believing that I could cajole, beg or wheedle to get what I wanted before I learned that I couldn’t change anyone unless they wanted to change. It left me so exhausted that even had I understood that I was able to choose which thoughts to follow and therefore how I felt, I probably wouldn’t have had any time or energy left to do anything other than what I’d always done….been a complete slave to my emotions and spend much of my time hurt, angry or jealous.

Keep it slow and simple – K I S S

There was a time I was so thrilled with how I’d broken free of the prison I’d naively built myself, that I wanted to share it with everyone, wanted to shout it from the rooftops, wanted to free them too. The excited puppy phase didn’t last very long and instead I sank into a beautiful happiness; a joy that I could share when appropriate and not otherwise. My life had become awesome. I’d always had some good days but now, every day was a great day and even if things didn’t go according to plan, I was able to always stay connected to the inner wisdom, peace and happiness we all have within us and could count my blessings. That feeling lasted for years…it was bliss. I always felt clear headed and peaceful, no longer needed to mediate and had a wonderful experience of life. I assumed it would last forever…then suddenly things changed. I say suddenly but it was probably a process that I suddenly became aware of.

Do I make myself clear?!

It is very difficult to explain to you how I feel, when we’re limited by language; I’ve already told you that, for a long time, I have been peaceful and happy, so now that I tell you that everything has changed and that now I’m more peaceful and happy, how can I expect you to understand how huge that is for me? All I can say is that if you choose to follow the path I did, you too will have insights, enlightenments, epiphanies. On one hand, I wish I could explain it better to you but on the other hand, I’m just so grateful that my understanding is deepening and I believe it will never stop. This is the best I can do:

I feel that my energy is now even more peaceful…more gentle…quieter; less is much…much more.

The following quote is accredited to the Acturians…and whether that’s something you believe in or not, and I can’t say I do, it is a beautiful quote.

“Your work is not to drag the world kicking and screaming into a new awareness. Your job is to simply do your work…sacredly, secretly and silently…and those with eyes to see and ears to hear, will respond.”

I saw these recently….

A comfort zone is a wonderful place, but nothing ever grows there.

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.

They really made me think. What do you feel about them? I’d love to know.

I wonder why it’s so frowned upon to be comfortable? You might like to read You want to be strong? Protect yourself; fight off the competition for more of my ideas on whether it is beneficial to have such a lack of peace and kindness in business.

Make yourself comfortable

Is comfort a bad thing? I guess if, when you think of comfort, you imagine an absence of drive or a laziness, then it wouldn’t be the way to succeed in business, but I see it as a peacefulness and clarity, a place where you can be focussed and unruffled , a place where you can trust all your decisions, a place where you can enjoy whatever you’re doing, whether that’s reading a novel or managing a business.

Please don’t mistake my gentleness for weakness or write me off as too airy-fairy. I run several businesses; they’re all exactly as successful as I have chosen them to be and I love them all. I think of them like my children…they need discipline and firmness but even more, they loving and nurturing.

Do you want to grow….or do you actually want to just be? Be happy, be peaceful?

I don’t see that growing and being peaceful are mutually exclusive. I want to be both and I intend to be. Before you ask, yes, when the going gets tough, I will be calmer still; we’re no good to anyone, not least ourselves, when we buckle under pressure.

When told that someone hasn’t got time to meditate for half an hour each day, I would prescribe an hour! Once we understand that we each have within us, all the love we could ever need and can simply choose to connect with it in every single moment.

When I saw the following quote, it made absolute sense to me.

Inner peace is the new success

If I had to trade peace for success, I’d choose peace every time. The awesome thing is, that when we consistently choose peace, we naturally become successful; how cool is that?!

I’ll leave you with a fabulous Rumi quote.

“The inspiration you seek is already within you. Be silent and listen.”

Next week I’ll be exploring how poor we are at asking for or accepting help. Until then, have a calm and productive week and let me know if you have any questions or comments.

Love, Catherine x

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