I’m just not in the mood!

When I used to believe my thoughts as if they were real, as if they were fact, I thought I had to be ‘in the mood’ to do things. A few examples were :

writing

exercising

dancing

meditating

housework

I didn’t realise that I could choose to carry on with my life, whatever was happening with my thoughts. I didn’t understand that it didn’t matter what stories my thoughts were telling me…because thoughts are not reality. I now know that I can simply let my thoughts come and go like clouds in the sky and not attach to any of them that I don’t want to.

I like to imagine my thoughts as television screens, each showing a different film; I can become interested in any of them, maybe even ignore all the other things in my life for a while. Or I can simply let the screens show whatever they do whilst I get on with whatever I want to do.

Moving on…

If I had to wait to be ‘ready’ or ‘in the mood’ for everything, I wouldn’t move very far forward with my life; I would feel ‘stuck’. Maybe you know that feeling?

It looks real that we have to do things in a certain order, that we have to process information before we can do the next task, but this is just a little trick that keeps us procrastinating. ‘Putting things off’ is one of the ways our subconscious stops us setting ourselves up for failure or making a fool of ourselves in some way. It is a positive intention but if we have made the decision to do something from a calm and grounded place, we know that it is the correct thing to do and don’t need to listen to our subconscious’s ‘helpful’ concerns.

What if I fall?

Oh, my darling, but what if you fly?

What if we fail? What if we make a gigantic fool of ourselves? Realistically, what’s the worst that can happen?

Maybe our egos will be a bit bruised for a while but it can’t affect us. Nothing and no one can ever hurt us explains this in more detail.

It is our challenges that help us grow, our mistakes that help us learn, our falls that are our best teachers.

Fortunately, many people understand that they don’t need to ‘be in the mood’ for us. Do you think that your doctor, your dentist, your surgeon, your solicitor or even your hairdresser was ‘in the mood’ today? As our thoughts and with them, our feelings, change all the time, there is a pretty good chance that these people who serve and care for us don’t ‘feel like it’ quite often….and yet they still show up, they still do their jobs.

There are lots of times I would have preferred a duvet day, a visit from a friend, an evening in front of the TV or almost anything rather than going to work but each time, I placed a smile on my face and went to work. The interesting and awesome thing is, that once I started working, I almost always forgot about my low mood and enjoyed what I was doing.

We always, always have the choice whether to listen to our good ol’ self-talk or ignore it and give ourselves the opportunities and experiences we could have missed. Concentrating on negative things will only ever bring us down, will keep us focused on the ‘bad’ in everything. Our thoughts ebb and flow throughout our days, with our natural state being peaceful and happy; allowing and indulging ourselves to be ‘not in the mood’ keeps us locked in our sad, bored, weary, jealous, angry and unmotivated stories and stops us experiencing all that life has to offer us.

I’m not saying that every day is going to be amazing or that sad things won’t sometimes happen, but rather that, whatever happens, we will all be okay, the sky will not come tumbling down and, if we don’t tightly hold onto our grievances, we will soon naturally return to our place of wisdom, peace and happiness. Please do not think that I am belittling whatever worries you may be thinking are too awful, serious or large to let go of, I’m merely trying to gently explain that focusing on them will only make them more awful, serious and large. You will find that, once you stop exhausting yourself with your stories of ‘not being in the mood’, you will have more time and energy to accept and cope with whatever you encounter. You will find that your calm and grounded place is always available to you, even at those times when you feel like it isn’t.

Love your life and it will love you right back

Social media memes often tell me to ‘live each day as if it’s your last’. I don’t want to think about my last days and all the associated consequences….I want to love the life I live….I want to grasp it with both hands and enjoy every single bit of it. So, I choose to live each day as if it’s my birthday!

I challenge you to do the same, to love every moment as if you chose it, to focus on all the good things in your life. I challenge you to try it for the rest of the day. Whether you rise to that challenge or not, however well it goes for you, try it again tomorrow…and the next day….and the next day….and watch your life improve.

Go boldly into your life and love every second, even the bits that maybe you wouldn’t usually have chosen. What have you got to lose? A lot less than you have to gain, I can assure you.

Next week I’ll be talking about where love comes from. Until then, enjoy finding the positives in every person and situation and please let me know if you have any comments or questions.

Love Catherine x

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